Has your husband been a real grouch lately?
Lately it seems that every time I turn around I’m talking with a woman whose family is hurting and it is a result in many ways of this struggling economy.
Ladies, our men were created to be providers, and when things beyond their control happen that leave them unable to do that. it greatly affects them.
Depression is affecting men in ways it never has in the past. Many of them are feeling hopeless with the current financial situations they are in. Feeling unable to provide for their families as they have in the past is destroying their confidence and making them angry.
I’ve spoken with many women lately who are frustrated, wanting their husbands to stop being so harsh with the kids and even withdrawing from the family.
Here is a very alarming article that explains the desperation some men are feeling. Do Suicides Go Up When the Economy Heads South?
Ladies, we cannot forget that our highest calling is being a helpmeet to our husbands, it is the reason we were first created: Gen 2:19-22 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. NIV
If someone or something else could be a “suitable helper” there would not have been reason to create us.
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our busyness and daily life with the kids that we forget the reason we were first put on this earth.
Our husband’s today need us to be a strong and suitable helper, to be an encourager and show our husbands the respect they so desperately need from us.
You may be feeling that they are not deserving, that they have been is such a horrible mood lately- that THEY need to shape up. Maybe you are right, but that’s not how God wants you to look at it. We as wives need to look in the mirror and ask what we can do to stop the vicious cycle of anger/resentment/disrespect in our homes.
Here is a reminder of the reasons God brought us into our husbands life. Prov 31:12 12 She brings him good, not harm,all the days of her life. NIV
Prov 12:4 4 A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones. NIV
Prov 18:22 22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD. NIV
1 Peter 3:1 1 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives NIV
I searched and searched but couldn’t find anywhere that said our husband would fill us with joy or make all our dreams come true….but there was this other man…Jesus Ps 16:11 11 You have made known to me the path of life; You will fill me with joy in Your presence, with eternal pleasures at Your right hand. NIV The Lord will give us the strength to do what He’s called us to do IF we go to Him for it.
Be a wise woman: Prov 14:1 The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. NIV
I know it isn’t easy girls…but our families are at stake.
I’m praying for our marriages and especially for our husbands. Much love, Sue