Mark and I have spent plenty of time with couples faced with the problem of infidelity and I have personally sat down with women who were on the verge of stepping into or full-into an affair. The reprocussions are devastating and sometimes destroy the marriage altogether.
This article is very good. It breaks down the anatomy of an affair and reveals why and how affairs happen.
If you have not dealt with this, I’m sure you know others that have. Read this and educate yourself on the pitfalls of same-sex friendships.
Here is an excerpt from the article:
Dear Dr. Harley, I am female, 34 years old, and have been married 8 years. Lately, I have felt very ignored and restless in our relationship. I don’t think my husband is aware of these feelings because I try to hide them, but they are in my heart. He buys me beautiful gifts and tries to give me his love and support. He has always been a very kind man, but he would rather watch TV and talk to our dog than talk with me. That’s just the way he is.
Recently a man has come into my life that has rekindled feelings in me that have been dormant for a long time. I find myself thinking about him often and wish I could be with him. I feel so guilty and ashamed of these feelings, but nevertheless, they are there. I try not to think about him, but I do. I don’t know if he feels the same way about me, but sometimes he looks at me in a way that gives me a signal that he might. Nothing has been said or done between us. I don’t want to tell my husband about this because this man is my husband’s best friend. There are things I can do to get closer to the “other man” if I will allow it to happen, but I’m afraid of the consequences. I feel I’m at a crossroads. I’m sure you’ve heard this type of story before. I would value your opinion. I cannot talk to anyone about this.
R.J. Here is the article: Coping With Infidelity
I’m praying for our marriages! Much love, Sue