Here’s a couple of links relating to the benefits of staying married.
Link: Reasons to Stay Married Titles include: *Family Structure and Expulsion or Suspension from School (you must see the chart) *Seperation from Mom, Dad Linked with Learning Trouble *Children of Divorce Twice as Likely to be Put on Ritalin *…and many more.
Link: Sharon Hughes Excerpt: “Yes, marriage protects children. And yes, marriage therefore protects taxpayers and society from a broad and deep set of costs, personal and communal. But there is another case for marriage, equally significant, that you probably haven’t heard. Marriage is a powerful creator and sustainer of human and social capital for adults as well as children, about as important as education when it comes to promoting the health, wealth, and well-being of adults and communities. For most Americans, this is news.”
There is lots of valuable info on her site.
I was 33 years old when my parents divorced and it was difficult, I can’t imagine what it is like for younger children. Even as an adult, so much of what I counted on in life to be stable, fell apart. We faced changes and challenges and it would be years before we established a “new normal.” My kids really struggled as the holidays and birthdays came around. Suddenly, people that they loved, didn’t like each other any more. It’s not supposed to be like that.
I hear people say that you shouldn’t stay together for the kids…really why not? They need you to. They need you to try with all your might to make your marriage work. In an atmosphere of disdain for Godly marriage, our homes need to be like lighthouses that show people around us- it CAN work, it’s not always easy, but it’s worth it. The benefits we will reap are worth it!
I feel like I am very specifically speaking to some people (and I don’t know who you are) that need someone to say…work it out! Do everything in your power to make your marriage not only survive, but be strong. And yes, I do believe that the kids are good enough reason, and maybe even for the GRANDKIDS. But hopefully later, you will come to realize that you will benefit too.
If that is you and you don’t know where to start, go to this website, read it and then order their book, Love and Respect.
If you are reading this and someone popped into your mind, click on the little envelope at the bottom and email it to them.
I’m praying for our marriages, Sue