Changing Our Tone Changes Everything
If you’re stopping by because you heard me on STAR 105.7… WELCOME! This is what we talked about on “The Real Moms of West Michigan” today. (Don’t you just picture me in fuzzy robe and slippers?? Add a cup of coffee and side-show Bob hair and that’s pretty much me!)
“Changing Our Tone Changes Everything” The other day I was scolding Lauren (my 7yr old) for not getting ready fast enough, which is a common occurrence because I tend to be running behind, and suddenly I heard my angry voice barking orders at her and I was horrified by the sound of it.
I thought about the fact that I would never talk to someone else this way.
AND…if I ever heard another person speak in this tone to my child, I would get all kinds of ugly on them! But here I was, unloading on my child, my precious daughter who I dearly love!
And her response?
To bark right back at me.
Yes. It’s a vicious cycle.
I thought to myself…this is NOT working. I have to change my tone.
I thought of what it says in Proverbs 15:1.
A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.
I needed to deflect my anger. So I took a deep breath and spoke in my best “nice mom” voice.
Immediately, it changed the atmosphere in the room. She calmed down, we got ready and headed out the door.
Thankfully, the simple act of calming my voice and quieting my tone can change the atmosphere of our homes!
So, I want to encourage Mom’s today to think about the sound of our voices because our kids respond so much better when we speak to them in calmer tones.
I KNOW this isn’t easy, but it can change everything if we give it a try and WE will feel better about ourselves as Moms too.
I hope you were encouraged by this Real Mom moment!
Much love, Sue Cramer
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