Do you walk away from arguments with your spouse feeling as though you just lost? While the other person is talking, are you thinking of what you can say to change his or her words?
No? Well, I have, so humor me! 😉
I have even had arguments with my husband while he was out of the room!
But seriously, this is so destructive to our marriage. We are partners after all. We are both on the same team, but sometimes we treat each other like arch enemies. We think that there is a winner and a loser, when in fact if we are against each other- we both lose.
Eph 5:29-31 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.
30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones.
31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” NKJV
Can you imagine what would happen if your body tried to function according to the rules of a win-lose system. Suppose your heart and your lungs got into a heated debate about which one most needed more blood supplied to it. Or if our mouth decided to punish the body by not breathing anymore.Does it really matter who wins?
In marriage, you have to find a win-win solution,
because when there’s a winner and a loser, you both lose!
We have to find a win-win solution.
To do this, it’s going to take humility and maturity.
It really doesn’t matter who is right or wrong, we may never agree on that. But can we chose to lay down our own rights for our spouse? God will reward a humble heart.
When we walk in love, we both win. Your nugget for today is, Win-Win! Here’s some food for thought (and prayer):
Ps 25:9 9 He guides the humble in what is right and teaches them His way. NIV
Eph 4:2 2 Be completely humble and gentle;
be patient, bearing with one another in love. NIV
James 4:6 “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” NIV
James 4:10 10 Humble yourselves before the Lord,
and He will lift you up. NIV
1 Peter 5:6-7 6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand,
that He may lift you up in due time. NIV